FIND OUT THE REAL REASON WOMEN ARE CHEATING AS MUCH AS MEN

Women's Relationships Today follow a very Predictable Pattern:

·         They push men for commitment

·         They get what they want

·         They lose interest in sex

·         They become attracted to someone else

·         They start cheating

·         They become angry and resentful

·         They begin telling their partners that they need time apart

·         They blame their partners for their behavior ... and eventually, after making themselves and everyone around them miserable for an indefinite, but usually, long period of time, they end their relationships or marriages.   

After researching women's sexuality for more than ten years, I can honestly say that most of our societal beliefs about females are grossly distorted and many are completely erroneous. -Michelle Langley, author of Women's Infidelity.

If you're a Male, like most other males, you would probably never suspect that your partner is cheating, not only because of your wife’s or girlfriend’s seeming disinterest in sex; but also because you have the belief that your wife or girlfriend is a “good girl.” Unfortunately, males are frequently left/divorced by their wives and girlfriends without ever knowing about their wives' and girlfriends' infidelities.

If you’re a Female, like most other females, prior to cheating on your partner you always proclaimed yourself to be "not the type" who would ever cheat.  However, also like most other females, after they have cheated, you're shocked and appalled by your behavior; but at the same time you can't stop cheating. 

Women's Relationships and Marriages will continue to Follow this Same Pattern unless we develop an accurate understanding of females ─ particularly in regard to their sexuality.  In fact, after researching women's sexuality for more than ten years, I can honestly say that most of our societal beliefs about females are grossly distorted and many are completely erroneous. 

The media has finally begun to acknowledge, albeit to a small degree, the widespread Problem of Female Infidelity.  Recently, several books and articles have attempted to explain why women are now cheating as much as men.  However, none were successful in their attempt.  All of them left out very important pieces to this extremely complicated puzzle.  I believe the majority were simply unable to find all of the information necessary to figure out the problem.  Although, I'm certain that some were just afraid to disclose certain key pieces of information because the truth, quite frankly, is so contrary to our current beliefs.  Unfortunately, without these missing pieces, it's impossible to understand, and to subsequently fix, the real problem occurring in relationships today. 

My Story:

Shortly after my 27th  birthday, I began to feel very different.  I had been happily married for 4 years and then, suddenly out of nowhere, I began feeling bored and unhappy.  In an attempt to figure out what was causing my unhappiness, I looked for answers in books, tried to talk to my Mother and eventually went to see a psychologist.   All of the information I received attributed the way I was feeling to my husband, and similar to the majority of women, I began to view my husband as the culprit too.

Currently, Women are Initiating 70 - 75% of all Divorces

Later, through my own research, I discovered that what I was experiencing was quite normal.  In fact, women are the most likely to divorce in their late twenties and thirties after an average of 4 years of marriage.  During this time, it's quite common for women to experience a pre-midlife crisis, which is similar to the male midlife crisis, only with an important difference - a difference that can actually make women more likely to cheat than men. 

           

The "Stages" that Women often Experience during the course of their Long-term Relationships                            

Several years into my research I was able to identify distinctive patterns and behaviors in the women I interviewed.  I categorized these into four separate “stages” that women often experience during the course of their long-term relationships. The stages begin with a loss of sexual desire.

STAGE 1

Women at Stage 1 feel as though something is missing in their lives. They have all the things that they wanted—a home, a family, a great husband—but they feel they should be happier. Over time, many women in this stage begin to lose interest in sex. It is not uncommon for them to spend a great deal of energy trying to avoid physical contact with their husbands because they fear it might lead to a sexual encounter. They frequently complain of physical ailments to avoid having sex and often try to avoid going to bed at the same time as their husbands. They view sex as a job, not unlike doing the dishes or going to the grocery store. Some women in Stage 1 claim they feel violated when their husbands touch them.  Their bodies freeze up and they feel tightness in their chest and/or a sick feeling in their stomach. The majority of women in Stage 1 feel as though there is something wrong with them, that they are in some way defective. They are also fearful that their disinterest in sex will cause their husbands to cheat, or worse yet, leave them.

STAGE 2

Women at Stage 2 experience reawakened desire stimulated by an encounter outside the marital relationship. Whether these encounters with a "new" man involve sex or remain platonic, women will typically give a tremendous amount of emotional significance to these encounters.

Many women in this stage haven't felt any sexual desire for a long time. Many experience tremendous guilt and regret, regardless of whether their new relationships are sexual, merely emotional, or both. Most begin to experience what could be termed an identity crisis—even those who try to put the experience behind them. Constant reminders are everywhere. They feel guilt when the topic of infidelity arises, whether in the media, in conversations with family and friends, or at home with their husbands. Women in this stage can no longer express their prior disdain for infidelity without feeling like a hypocrite. They feel as though they have lost a part of themselves. Reflecting society’s belief that women are either “good” or “bad,” women will question their “good girl” status and feel that they might not be deserving of their husbands. Many will try to overcome feelings of guilt by becoming more attentive toward and appreciative of their husbands. However, over time many women will move from appreciation to justification. In order to justify their continued desire for other men, women will begin to attribute these desires to needs that are not being met in their marriage, or to their husband’s past behavior. Many women will become negative and sarcastic when speaking of their husbands and their marriages and it is not uncommon for an extramarital affair to follow.

STAGE 3

Women at Stage 3 are involved in affairs, ending affairs, or contemplating divorce. Women who are having affairs experience feelings unlike anything they have experienced before. They feel “alive” again and many believe they have found their soul mates. These women are experiencing feelings associated with a chemically altered state, or what is typically referred to as being in love.

These women are also typically in tremendous pain, the pain of choosing between their husbands and their new love interests. They typically believe that what they are doing is wrong and unfair to their husbands, but yet are unable to end their affairs. Many often try several times. Prior to meeting with their lovers, they will vow that it will be the last time, but they are unable to stick with their decisions.

Unable to end their extramarital relationships, women at Stage 3 conclude that their lovers are soul mates because they are unaware that they have become addicted to the high caused by chemicals released during the initial stages of a relationship. Many live in a state of limbo for years. “Should I stay married or should I get a divorce?” this is the question continuously on the minds of women at Stage 3 - it is also common for women at this stage to attempt to initiate a separation. In most cases, husbands of women at Stage 3, will launch futile attempts to make their wives happy by being more attentive, spending more time at home and helping out around the house. Regardless of women’s past and present complaints, the last thing women at Stage 3 want, is to spend more time with their husbands.

The reason many women will give for their desire to separate is a “search for self.” They convince their husbands that they might be able to save their marriage if they can just have time to themselves. They tell their husbands that time apart is the only hope of improving their current situation. Women at this stage want to free themselves of the restrictions of marriage and spend more time with their lovers. Most think that eventually their confusion will disappear.  They think they will eventually know with certainty whether they want to stay married or get divorced and be with their lovers. Separation allows women at this stage, to enjoy the high they experience with their lovers without giving up the security of their marriages. Husbands of Stage 3 women are often unaware that their wives are having affairs. Their lack of suspicion is typically due to their wife’s disinterest in sex and in their belief that their wife is a “good girl.”

Women at Stage 3 may also be experiencing the ending of an extramarital affair, and the ending may not have been their decision. They may have been involved with single men who either lost interest because the relationship could not progress or who became attracted to another women who was single. Women whose affairs are ending often experience extreme grief. They may become deeply depressed and express tremendous anger toward their husbands. They are typically unaware that they are experiencing chemical withdrawal due to sudden changes in their brain chemistry. As a result, many will feel that they have missed their chance at happiness due to their indecisiveness.

Believing they have become more aware of what they want and need from a mate, women at this stage will often place the utmost importance on finding a "new" relationship that will give them the feeling they experienced in their affairs. A new relationship with a new partner will also represent a clean slate, a chance for these women to regain their “good girl” status. Some women will search for new partners during their separations. Others will return to their marriages, but not emotionally and still continue to search. Some women will resume sporadic sexual relations with their husbands in an effort to safeguard their marriage until they make a decision. Although they are often not sexually attracted to their husbands, desire is temporarily rekindled when they suspect their husbands are unfaithful, are contemplating infidelity, or when their husbands show signs of moving on.

STAGE 4

The women in stage four included those who chose to stay married and continue their affairs and those who chose to divorce. Some of the women who continued their affairs stated that marital sex was improved by maintaining the extramarital relationship. Some thought the lover was a soul mate, but for one reason or another did not leave their husband and did not feel torn between the two. Others realized that their feelings were intensified by not sharing day-to-day living arrangements with their lover. Almost all of the women in this latter category were having affairs with married men. They believed their affairs could continue indefinitely without disrupting either partner’s primary relationship.

The women who chose divorce and were in the beginning stages of a new relationship typically expressed relief at having finally made a decision and reported feeling normal again. Many of the divorced women who had remarried and were several years into their new marriages seemed somewhat reluctant to talk about the specifics of their past experiences. However, they did mention feelings of guilt and regret for having hurt their children and ex-spouses only to find themselves experiencing similar feelings in the new relationship. 

Female infidelity will not only continue to be extremely common but it will also continue to be on the rise   

Women are cheating and relationships are ending because men and women lack necessary information.  Today's relationship problems are not only solvable, but many can be easily solved ─once you understand what the real problem is.  The information in Women's Infidelity should be common knowledge to couples, both married and unmarried, and to dating males and females.  Trying to have a relationship today without the information in this book is like to trying to read without knowing the letters of the alphabet.  This is not an exaggeration ─ it's a fact.  

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EXPOSED!! PASTOR OKOTIE HAD A SECRET LOVE CHILD WITH ANOTHER WOMAN WHILE MARRIED

Just when the new couple was settling to a new life, a certain Remi Odutola emerged from the blues alleging that she has a 9-year-old girl for the man of god. While her assertions beggar belief, the tall and delicately slim lady averred that she’s Reverend Chris’ secret wife. Hear her, “My name is Aderemi Odutola, a granddaughter of Ogbeni Oja of Ijebu-Ode. I met Reverend Christopher Okotie in 1997. I was a young Pastor desperately looking for a good church where I could worship and God led me to the Household Of God. Then, I had a music ministry, and because he was an ace musician, I took him as my mentor and strongly believed that he would help me one day. Along the line, something happened. We started seeing each other and I’ve done abortion for him three times before I decided to leave the last one”.

Why did she leave the last pregnancy and why is she coming out nine years after? ‘I left the pregnancy not for anything, but for the fact that he proposed to marry me’, she said, as tears welled up in her eyes. “Initially, I didn’t accept his proposal because of his wife, Tina. I couldn’t have married a married man. But he told me that his marriage to Tina was on the brink of collapse. He lied to me! Trouble, however, started immediately I got pregnant. He started behaving funny, unlike the amiable Pastor I met sometime back. At times, I would call him, but he wouldn’t pick or return my calls,” she said with a soft chuckle that betrayed a mien of good breeding and humility.

Her expression soon dissolved into a sad look when she recalled the moment she gave birth. ‘It dawned on me when I gave birth to our daughter that he was just a player. Ever since I gave birth to Tioluwani Okotie (our daughter), Reverend Chris has abandoned us in my family house in Opebi. It has not been easy at all taking care of our daughter all alone,” she said and opened a whirlpool of tears.

Does he send money for the child’s up-keep? “Money”? Remi said questioningly. She said further, “Whenever I call him that his daughter needs something, he will be dribbling me, giving me one excuse or the other. I was highly disappointed when I heard he eventually married Stephanie Henshaw, his late friend’s wife.

He did not marry me with all the things I have been through because of him.” We visited the church and some church members who do not want their names to be mentioned, confirmed that they have seen the little girl who shares a striking resemblance with the Pastor. We further gathered that even at the children’s church, people always gather to look at the girl and unconsciously wonder aloud if she is for Reverend Chris or not.

We tried to confirm this story from this abundantly brilliant man of God to confirm the veracity of the story, but all efforts to reach him proved abortive.

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APOSTLE BASIL PRINCEWILL THE G. O. OF MOUNTAIN MOVERS FIRE MINISTRIES INTERNATIONAL ABUJA ARRESTED FOR SEXUAL MOLESTATION 14-YEAR OLD GIRL

Pastor Basil Princewill, the General Overseer of Mountain Movers Fire Ministries International, Nyanya, Abuja, was arraigned with Ms. Paulyn Ode, the church’s coordinator on charges of alleged conspiracy, criminal impersonation, criminal intimidation, and criminal force and assault against young female members of his church.

The pastor was accused of having carnal knowledge of two 14-year-old female members of the church under pretenses of offering prayers for them in July, 2011 and later aborted the pregnancy of one of the girls this year at the Fountain Health Clinic, Nyanya, Abuja after telling doctors he is her father.

According to the charge, which was transferred from the National Agency for the Prohibition of Trafficking in Persons (NAPTIP) where parents of the victims lodged initial complaints, the pastor also impersonated as a lawyer with an LL.B certificate.

When the charges were read to the accused persons, they denied the allegations and their counsel, Uchenna Anayo, applied for their bail which was opposed by Police counsel Oyewusi Abiola.

Magistrate Ahmed Shuaibu ruled in favour of the defence and granted bail to the accused persons in the sum of N2 million with two sureties in like sums.

The sureties, he also said, must be civil servants of not below grade level 14 and must have a property in Abuja valued at not less than N5 million.

The magistrate adjourned the case to July 25 for hearing.

 < naijamayor.com

POPE GIVES PALLIUM TO 43 NEW ARCHBISHOPS: "THE CHURCH IS NOT A COMMUNITY OF THE PERFECT"

The feast of St. Peter and St. Paul is one of the most solemn ceremonies at the Vatican. Something that is easily seen in St. Peter's Basilica. First, the statue of St. Peter is decorated with robes and the papal ring. Also because the pope places the Pallium on the archbishops that were appointed over the past year.

The pallium itself is made of lamb’s wool and reminds the bishops of their work as pastors in taking care of their flocks.

Among the 43 new archbishops was the world's youngest cardinal, the Archbishop of Berlin Rainer Woelki, as well as Cardinal Francisco Robles from Guadalajara, Mexico. Then there was the new archbishop of Philadelphia, Charles Chaput, the young archbishop Luis Antonio Tagle from Manila, in the Philippines. There was also the Archbishop of Baltimore William Lori, and the archbishop of Seoul, South Korea, Andrew Yeom Soo Jung.

The Pope spoke to them about hope. In a speech that carried a nostalgic tone, he reflected on the contrast between the mission that God entrusted to St. Peter and his successors and the human weakness to comply. 

Benedicto XVI

“On the one hand, because of the light and the strength that come from on high, the papacy constitutes the foundation of the Church during its pilgrimage through history; on the other hand, across the centuries, human weakness is also evident, which can only be transformed through openness to God’s action.”

The Pope recalled that Jesus Christ promised St. Peter that the forces of evil would not prevail and that because of this the Church has the power to forgive sins. 

Benedicto XVI

“The Church is not a community of the perfect, but a community of sinners, obliged to recognize their need for God’s love, their need to be purified through the Cross of Jesus Christ.”

The ceremony had a strong ecumenical significance. First, because among those attending was a delegation sent by the main Orthodox leader, the Patriarch of Constantinople.

And also because the pope asked his official choir, the Sistine Chapel, to sing along with the most important Anglican Choir, the Choir of Westminster Abbey. The result was truly spectacular.                                                                        

Video Clip of the Ceremony:

 http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UWGAuXUFl3Y&feature=player_embedded

> (Romereports.com) 

PASTOR RUNS MAD WHILE PRAYING FOR MAD MAN

Scene of the mad man and the pastor, at Oke-Ado, Ibadan, Oyo State, on Thursday. Photo: Seye Adeniyi

People living at Oke-Ado area of Ibadan, Oyo State, as well as shop owners and automobile dealers along Molete road in the town, on Thursday around 5: p. m, watched a drama involving one pastor Timothy and Tunde, a mad man. 

Drama ensued on Thursday around 5.20 p.m, in the Oke Ado area of Ibadan, as one pastor Timothy ran mad while trying to perform the usual casting and binding on a mad man in the name of healing. According to Tribune Newspapers. The mad man popularly called Tunde, is known to loiter at the Molete –  Okeado region of the town where he was approached by a pastor carrying a bible, who tried to cure the former of his illness. Following a verbal scuffle by the two, Tunde removed the hand of the pastor from his head. Subsequently, the said pastor was ‘seized by a spirit’ and proceeded to take off own his clothes, lay face down while foaming at the mouth. During this display by the pastor, the mad man moved to sit in a nearby corner watching the pastor. When the pastor’s spasms had passed, he went to sit beside the mad man. The Pastor remained in the same state of mind when sources departed the scene.

BIZARRE: AFTER TERMINATING HIS 17 YEARS OLD FIRST MARRIAGE, AND 4 YEARS OLD SECOND MARRIAGE ALL IN LESS THAN 6 YEARS, PASTOR KRIS OKOTIE DECLARES: “I WOULD GET MARRIED AGAIN IN DECEMBER”

It’s no longer news that spiritual head of Household of God church and former presidential aspirant of Fresh Party, Pastor Kris Okotie and his pretty wife Stephanie have ended their four year-old fruitless marriage.

If the report reaching us is anything to go by, then Rev Chris Okotie has said again that come December, he’s going to be married again because it’s not good for the man to be alone, quoting God from the book of Genesis.

Pastor Kris and his wife Stephanie Henshaw have ended their marriage irreconcilably but another woman will be coming in shortly after her exit.

This is the second marriage the founder of Household of God will be ending in less than six years.

Sources in the church said the marriage has been having cracks in the past two years thinking that things would get better until the man of the centre of the drama finally broke the news.

If you remember, Pastor Okotie similarly dumped his first wife, Tyna after 17 years of marriage. The news of the break up came as a shock to many because it was highly celebrated. They had their honey moon in Dubai, London and France for some weeks.

During their wedding, Okotie claimed that his wife is still a virgin after two unsuccessful marriages and three children.

The 42 year-old Stephanie, on their wedding day told all and sundry said that God will give her a set of twins as first children to her husband.

Their first Sunday as husband and wife, Pastor Kris said that God has told him that they would be blessed with a set of twins soon. Four years after, the dream is not realised but the wedding is now collapsed. (http://247nigerianewsupdate.com/)

ARCHBISHOP ALFRED ADEWALE MARTINS OF LAGOS, NIGERIA TO RECEIVE PALLIUM IN REVISED CEREMONY ON THE FEAST OF SS. PETER & PAUL ALONG WITH 45 OTHER NEW ARCHBISHOPS THAT HAVE BEEN NAMED IN THE PAST YEAR

  

 Archbishop Alfred Adewale Martins

The Vatican has released the list of new archbishops that have been named in the past year and will receive the Pallium in the celebration of St. Peter and Paul.  

   

Some changes have also been announced to the ritual that takes place in St. Peter's Basilica. This year, the Pallium ceremony will take place before the Mass, rather than after the homily as it has in the past. The change is meant to make the ceremony shorter and avoid interrupting the liturgy.

   

Here is the full list of the 46 prelates to receive the Pallium: 

Cardinal Rainer Maria Woelki of BERLIN

Cardinal Francisco Robles Ortega of GUADALAJARA

Archbishop Francesco Moraglia, patriarch of VENICE

Archbishop Alfredo Horacio Zecca of Tucuman, ARGENTINA

Archbishop Mario Alberto Molina Palma. of Los Altos, GUATEMALA

Archbishop Charles Joseph Chaput of PHILADELPHIA

Archbishop Luc Cyr of Sherbrooke, CANADA

Archbishop Salvador Pineiro Garcia Calderon of Ayacucho, PERU

Archbishop Francesco Panfilo of Rabaul, Papua NEW GUINEA

Archbishop Ulises Antonio Gutierrez Reyes of Ciudad Bolivar, VENEZUELA

Archbishop Stanislaw Budzik of Lublin, POLAND

Archbishop Wilson Tadeu Jonck of Florianopolis, BRAZIL

Archbishop Paul Andre Durocher of Gatineau, CANADA

Archbishop Luis Antonio G. Tagle of Manila, PHILIPPINES

Archbishop Patrick D’Rozario of Dhaka, BANGLADESH

Archbishop Wiktor Pawel Skworc of Katowice, POLAND

Archbishop Jose F. Advincula of Capiz, PHILIPPINES

Archbishop Filippo Santoro of Taranto, ITALY

Archbishop Jose Francisco Rezende Dias of Niteroi, BRAZIL

Archbishop Esmeraldo Barreto de Farias of Porto Velho, BRAZIL

Archbishop Jaime Vieira Rocha of Natal, BRAZIL

Archbishop Joseph Harris of Port of Spain, TRINIDAD & TOBAGO

Archbishop Waclaw Depo of Czestochowa, POLAND

Archbishop Ignatius Chama of Kasama, ZAMBIA

Archbishop Pascal Wintzer Of Poitiers, FRANCE

Archbishop John Moolachira of Guwahati, INDIA

Archbishop William Charles Skurla of Pittsburgh of the BYZANTINES

Archbishop Joseph Coutts of Karachi, PAKISTAN

Archbishop Romulo Geolina Valles of Davao, PHILIPPINES

Archbishop Airton Jose dos Santos of Campinas, BRAZIL

Archbishop Timothy Costelloe of Perth, AUSTRALIA

Archbishop Jacinto Furtado de Brito Sobrinho of Teresina, BRAZIL

Archbishop Thomas D’Souza of Calcutta, INDIA

Archbishop Arrigo Miglio of Cagliari, ITALY

Archbishop John F. Du of Palo, PHILIPPINES

Archbishop Paulo Mendes Peixoto of Uberaba, BRAZIL

Archbishop Christian Lepine of Montreal, CANADA

Archbishop William Edward Lori of BALTIMORE

Archbishop Mark Benedict Coleridge of Brisbane, AUSTRALIA

Archbishop Jesus Carlos Cabrero Romero of San Luis Potosi, MEXICO

Archbishop Andrew Yeom Soo jung of Seoul, KOREA

Archbishop Benedito Roberto of Malanje, ANGOLA

Archbishop Alfred Adewale Martins of Lagos, NIGERIA

    Archbishop Samuel Joseph Aquila of DENVER     

There are two new archbishops who cannot attend the ceremony and so they will receive the Pallium in their own archdiocese:

• Archbishop Gabriel Justice Yaw Anokye of Kumasi, GHANA
• Archbishop Valery Vienneau of Moncton, CANADA

The Pallium is an Ecclesiastical vestment worn by the Pope and conferred by him on Archbishops and sometimes on Bishops.

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WHO IS A FAITHFUL PARTNER?

Unfaithfulness is used to describe someone who is involved in an extramarital affair. But what most people fail to know is that being faithful in marriage is far more complicated than cheating on your partner.

Faithfulness encompasses elements such as love, commitments, loyalty, and patience. And, according to the Bible, faithfulness means staying true to your partner, being trustworthy, certain, steadfast and sure, just like the Biblical Ruth.

When couples are joined in holy matrimony, faithfulness is the bedrock of the vows they exchange while you hear them say, ‘to stay with you in sickness, in health, for better, for worse’. But despite the fact that we all know that faithfulness is one of the qualities required in marriage, how many married couples are really faithful to their spouses?

What most people fail to know is that being faithful to your partner is far beyond not having extra-marital affairs or avoiding inappropriate emotional intimacies. Partners who are faithful stick together in times of trouble.

According to Pastor Alonge, a relationship counsellor, a faithful partner is that man that is willing to stand by his wife during difficult times, and not the one that professes to be faithful to his wife but runs away when there is trouble.

“Any man who is willing to stand by his wife when she has not given him a child after many years of marriage is faithful. A man who still sees his wife as being completed after she has been diagnosed with breast cancer is faithful.”

A faithful man is not such that does cheat on his wife, but the man that is not willing to yield to the negative advice of family, but is ready to stay with his wife even when she has not given him children after many years of marriage.

Clara, 32, had complications while she was pregnant with her first child, having been married for two years. This led to the removal of her womb, but rather than her husband, Simon, leaving, he decided to stay true to that love that brought them together and to the oath of faithfulness they swore to on their wedding day.

If you ask me, not too many men can do what Simon did for his wife. He said he would rather adopt children than leave his wife frustrated, because she did not bring the complications that led to the removal of her womb upon herself.

Most men will choose to yield to the advice of their parents and family members to remarry, because to them, living with a woman without womb is equivalent to living with another man.

Someone who is faithful to her spouse is that woman who will do all to stand by her husband when they have lost all the money and comfort they used to enjoy when they just got married. And not the woman who nags and threatens to leave her husband when things are no longer going smoothly for them.

When we look more closely to the impact of faithfulness and the consequences of unfaithfulness, it becomes apparent that faithfulness is not just desirable, it is essential to a vibrant, healthy marriage. Notice that faithfulness is not a quality measured or dependent upon the faithfulness of one’s spouse.

Faithfulness is an expression of the integrity and character of an individual. It is not a relationship quality, it is a personal characteristic.

This quality of faithfulness is tested many times in a marriage. We all find out sooner or later that our spouse is not a perfect person. They come up with habits that turn us off at times. Faithfulness is that quality of being trustworthy and true when we have all the justification needed to fall toward judgement, resentment, and contempt for our spouse.

Marital crisis and distress can bring out the worst in us. It can also be an occasion for growth and discovery of what is best and most precious in us. Faithful persons embrace the faith, hope, and opportunity to believe something better is possible.

It is a beautiful and precious expression of love and it is most clear when set in the context of marital disappointment, pain, and despair.

Married couples should learn to embrace God, the author of faithfulness. When your heart is filled with His love, no circumstance can separate you from your spouse. Because with the help of God, you will be willing to stick with your spouse to face all opposition with the hope of victory. 

By KEHINDE AJOBIEWE  Ø  http://www.leadership.ng/